5.01.2009

appendicitis update

appendicitis isn't fun. i don't know from the physical pain of the experience, but i know from watching garrett go through it this week. over the weekend, he had a few stomach pains but didn't complain much. "he doesn't get sick" and he doesn't complain. monday afternoon i got a few text messages stating his stomach update - it was getting worse, not better. he ended up leaving work just a little early & by the time i made it home, he'd puked a few times already. so i ran to get him some crackers and coke. when i got home from that - he was sprawled out on the bathroom floor moaning and crying out in pain. i mean, i've had the stomach flu before... this was obviously worse than just the pukes. but garrett was still trying to be tough & at first resisted the idea of going to the instacare a little. but i knew that whatever was wrong was worse than i could handle at the time. when we get to the instacare, he's in so much pain that he couldn't even get out of the car yet - he was too busy puking & was in so much pain. so i ran into the instacare & shouted "my husband's in the car puking and he can barely move he's in so much pain. this isn't normal & i need help. he's kinda big guy." about that time, he came shuffling in with his barf bucket. he's barely coherent, he sits down in the first seat & the nurse looks at me and tells me that i might as well just take him to the hospital because if he's that bad they're going to end up sending him there anyway, cause at the instacare they can't do IV's, etc.

so we drive to the hospital. garrett's getting more and more incoherent. he's mumbling, he's writhing in pain. he's puking straight bile by now. we go into the ER & i talk to the nurse... pretty soon she calls us back for his "in take" or whatever - i am sure the process was sped along a little bit due to the swearing that was understandable & the small children that were around. maybe not, but i have a feeling it was. they took us back & got him started on morphine. which did not touch his pain. about 15 minutes later, the doctor came to check on him & he got him going on a pain killer 10 times stronger than morphine. delotted. i could be spelling it wrong. the delotted touched his pain. it made him silly, really sassy and just a smidgen more of a smart ass. i was just happy that he was able to finally sit still and stop puking. (they had also given him an anti nausea med)

i forgot to mention that at some point between when they gave him the morphine and the delotted, i kinda had a breakdown. i mean, when someone is on morphine, i expect you to start feeling better. thoughts of "what in the world is going to happen?" started crossing my mind. i all of a sudden REALLY wanted my parents to be close. i called my parents, they didn't answer. i tried calling garrett's parents, they didn't answer. i called heidi. i called jared. jared was a life saver and got in touch with his parents... within less than an hour, i had heidi, garrett's parents & jared at the hospital. brad and jared gave garrett a blessing. things slowly started improving from there.

by a little after one, they diagnosed him with appendicitis. in the next hour they got him checked into the hospital & then more hell started. that first night, from 2 - 8 am we had a terrible nurse. she wasn't attentive. she didn't do the things she was supposed to do, what she said she was going to do. she had crappy excuses for her crappy service. the ER nurse we had & every other nurse after her were wonderful though. and we made sure to request that we didn't have her the 2nd night. i think both of us would've hurt her.

the surgery went well. he was in a lot less pain. he has 3 small incisions. his appendix was apparently huge... and they took it out through his belly button. he's really tripped out over that one. he's still on strong painkillers... which means he's still pretty psychedelic at times. so many funny things have been said... i can't remember them all... that first night, i got about an hour's worth of sleep, so i've been playing catch up all week. i'm trying to take care of him the best i can. he keeps spiking a fever though... which worries me. fevers are fairly normal & we're giving him acetaminophen to fight it, but if it gets too high, we have to call the dr... we had to call once...

i was so scared the first night. i think i was in shock of what was going on. i just wanted him to be ok. his appendix could've burst & that still kills people. i can't imagine the pain he was going through. he was beyond miserable. now it's my job to keep him at minimal pain. i've been just trying to keep him comfortable. i mean, i've always known that i loved him - but this makes me realize how nothing else is as important as him. school's taken a back seat. i mean, i've had to go and take care of sub plans... but i'm missing our big second grade program today, because i can't leave him. not with his fever issues... i feel guilty about missing that, for the kids - but i just can't be away from him right now.

oh & on top of that, we've got connor and will, while holly's on her trip to san fran. that keeps things lively, too. they're being really good & gentle with garrett. i feel a little bit bad for them, cause we're not doing all of the fun things that i wanted to do with them on this weekend, but again - they'll survive. besides, we're not doing all of the things i had planned, but they're having fun... they don't know that i'm not taking them to do all of the things i had planned. and in the mean time, as soon as the boys go to bed, i go to bed, too. yep, last night i went to sleep before it was dark out... i wish i could say that i slept thru the night, but at least i got enough sleep.

this also reminds me that i have great friends. friends who drop off cookies, friends who take over my class even though it's her short off track break, friends who offer to drop off dinner... even in the midst of this mess, we've got family & friends - so life is good. thanks everyone!

11 comments:

pammy said...

Oh WOW! I know how you feel! Chris had his appendix almost burst too! It good you got him in when you did it sounds like! Hope Garrett is doing better and on the road to recovery!

Shelley~Maren said...

I love friends that drop off cookies! :) I hope G-man continues to feel better! I'm glad it wasn't worse than it was! :)

Mom said...

Happy to hear Garrett is getting better. Pain is terrible. It does make you so thankful that we are not in that kind of pain all the time. Glad you have friends around you because we are so sorry we can't be of much help except by telephone while we are taking care of our own shoulder surgery issues.

J+S said...

Glad to hear things are going better hope they continue!

Jan said...

So glad he is OK - it sounds like a really rough time for both of you. Hope he gets better ASAP!!

Aimee said...

Been thinking about you guys... so happy to hear that all went well! Hoping for a speedy recovery full of wonderful pain medication!

Sarah Young said...

Stay strong Hayley!

rychelle said...

friends and family are what get us through most of the tough times.

glad to hear he is on the mend!

Tori said...

I'm glad you're both doing o.k. It's moments like this that make me realize two hours away is a bit far. Love you both.

Julie said...

That is SO scary and I am very happy to hear that things went well. Brent really did have his appendix burst and did almost die. Crazy! I'm glad to hear that you were there to take care of him. Also I love the picture from your student- so sweet (I miss that!)

tiburon said...

So glad he is doing better!