i don't want to sound like a jerk here. so please don't be offended if i say something that you don't want to accept. but craig and i - we're not happening. this could end up being embarrassing for me - as he doesn't read my blog regularly, but has my blog address & could read it. but he's heard this all before, too. about how and why he doesn't date some of his friends. which brings me to my first point.
1) I'm not the only good friend that he has that is a girl. He's got a couple of other ones. I'd like to think I'm one of the top two, but I don't know. He's an awesome person, don't get me wrong, but he definitely has issues with relationships. He's had an on again off again (long distance) girlfriend for years. I also knew her in Hawaii & for completely unrelated issues (to him) couldn't stand her. This has been a strain on our relationship over time. He knew I didn't like her, but I felt obligated to try and be supportive. A week ago, he finally broke up with her "for real" but who knows. This has happened before - them breaking up. My initial response when he told me they broke up was "for how long?"
2) I'm not unassertive or unaggressive. I say things. There have been a few times over the years when I thought we were stupid for not at least trying. Twice in fact, have I brought things up & twice he shot them down. His reasoning: timing isn't right & he doesn't want to lose our friendship, if things didn't work out right. (and i hate to admit to it, but he's right. i would be devastated to lose him.) but the bottom line is: if I really wanted to kiss him, i would've at some point. i kiss people. i'm not shy like that. i go for what i want. so my conclusion has always been - if i wanted to kiss him, i would've at some point. we have never kissed.
3) i want the best for him. i want to help him find a decent girl for him. (as long as it wasn't her)
I think he's an amazing person. Potential to be an amazing father. Potential to be a great husband, as long as his future wife can handle ADHD. He's got a good job, he honors his priesthood, he's got his head on straight. I love him for all of those things. I even think he's handsome & should find a beautiful girl. but it doesn't stop me from taking you back to the last sentence in point 2.
4) i've always been able to be friends with guys. in fact, often i think they're easier relationships than with women. women can be catty, jealous & needy. men don't do that. as i've gotten older, and men have gotten married off, i don't have as many friends like that. but as long as craig's still around, i'll just enjoy what i've got. and yes, i do struggle, often, with the fact that being friends with craig is more fun & easier (less pressure) than going out and finding myself a real relationship. sometimes i try and spend less time with him, but not for the reason you think - my reasoning is this: to motivate myself to find someone "real" - hence why i'm on ldssingles.
the bottom line is people: i think he'd have to wake up some day and take some major big boy pills if he ever wanted something (which i don't think he does) from me and he would have to say something. cause i've put it on the table. and i won't. again. ever. its incredibly hard to say something like this to your best friend, after 7+ years. but i've tried, in the past. and i'm not risking things again. cause i have these inner battles with the issue, since i hear about this literally all the time. if i wanted it to happen, i am pretty sure i would've made it happen. i'm sorry if this isn't the response you wanted to these comments. but if it makes you feel more comfortable, in the future when i'm talking about him, i could type in some female name instead of his, like "marge" - that way the readers of the blogging world can just accept that we're friends.